Jump forward...one year....

Okay, I actually forgot about me starting this...perhaps I thought I was dreaming.  I lost my father suddenly in December and been trying to come to terms with his sudden loss.  Well, I am still forty and fabulous with a touch of sadness.  Now one year older  ;)

Dating world got smaller...I have been dating "Kyle" now for six months.  He is great in so many ways.  It is interesting to see men now in their 40s.  Not too many years ago, I thought this decade of life to be old...balding, spare tires and wrinkles.  Ha!  Some are, some are not.  I myself don't feel old at all save for a few physical limitations of going over a 12 foot wall (I did get over with help!)  But on the other side, it is fascinating to see how they simply don't grow up either.  Not saying the Kyle is immature.  He has had many responsibilities thrown at him and I can see how people want to stay young and carefree.  So much to learn still about themselves and what they really want.  Giving Kyle some credit, he is sweet, thoughtful, caring, handy, hard working, and loves me dearly.  He is also good to my Jack.

The M word has not come up, nor will it from me.  It will long long long long long time before I would even consider it.  We have separate housing and it suits me just fine for the time being.  Still so skittish of commitments where that word is a fine line between mental institution and walking down the aisle (again).  Jaded.  Through and through.  I used to be a big old softy romantic, flowers swept me off my feet....

So I guess this blog that started out as a one woman's insight to dating in her forties, single mom has taken a turn.  There is so much I have learned in all these years.  There is so much I need more to learn and understand....or consider.  The heart can hold gallons of love for so many.  I just hope mine isn't too closed off to allow me to trust again.

This is not man bashing blog, so sorry to disappoint...nor is this for dating website...this is just me in the dating world.  I am forty, single Mom, and not even looking to date given my past history.  But I just felt the need to share my experiences with the men I have met so far in my past and the current ones.  Names shall be changed to protect the not so innocent...


I have just started a successful career as a women's health nurse practitioner.  I moved across the country from Alabama (where I went to graduate school...no dating there!) and now live in Washington State.  I have a son who is quite active in sports and school.  And he is the real reason that if and when I do meet someone I am interested in...he is still the priority.  Quality, NOT quantity....


So, I have now lived here for almost three months.  I have been asked out by two different men.  


"Jeremy" is "self-employed".  Football coach, too.  Oh boy!  Nothing against coaches, but let's just say, he would have fit in great in Alabama where Football is a religion.  He is loud, self-centered, and has a temper.  And this I got all in about 15 minutes of talking to him.  He is good looking and fit, got to give him props there.  But being that he probably works out more than he probably works, he really doesn't have an excuse.  Any way, before I even committed to going to his house to let the boys swim...I did my all time favorite FREE background check....PUBLIC RECORDS!!  Props to my bro-in-law for teaching me this...


I think it is a sign when something happens on your birthday...the bank foreclosed on Jeremy's house this year on my birthday....THAT was a sign for me to RUN!!!!  Nice enough guy, but I really don't need ANOTHER mouth to support and feed.  I know all of us are affected by the currently economic situation, but I am not going to enter a relationship with drama already in place.  Plus I don't think I could fit in his truck along with his ego...He and his ex-wife were also sued in the past for failure to pay and with a court order...


Next stop...Washington "bachelor? #2"....